by AmyD | Aug 23, 2016 | Choices, Entrepreneurship, Leadership, Mindfulness
Recently, I’ve talked about the different ways your energy can emanate, particularly if you’re in a leadership position. Today I’d like to discuss how masculine energy functions, and how it can work for and against you.
Masculine energy can be a powerful force for good, a unique vibration that invigorates and enlivens everyone around you. However, some masculine energies can be misdirected, coaxed into servicing a winner-takes-all approach that is unsustainable in the long run.
Some men feel an aggressive urge to compete at all costs, in their professional and personal lives. This ongoing drivenness to do or perform takes a psychic toll, because it doesn’t account for every person’s need for quieter, more contemplative moments. These are moments of reflection, a “time out” during which you can carefully consider the world around you and how to best approach it.
This kind of mindful reflection is an opportunity to truly see your unique destiny as it relates to the world, not just how your individual male ego can best be served by others. The un-enlightened among us will often accuse such acceptance and allowance as”un-masculine,” but when an individual’s masculine yang energy is untamed, it can never achieve the wholeness it so desires.
The ability to stop and reflect, and experience mindful gratitude, is not un-masculine. It is a powerful ability that some of the most successful male leaders have harnessed.
The CEO of Aetna, Mark Bertolini, is an example of a man who demonstrates positive male leadership in the right way through his daily mindfulness practice. Bertolini exudes confidence, knowledge and masculine power because he meditates on the important role he’s been given. He carefully considers the way he can best serve those who follow him, not how he can deplete all his resources in service to himself.
Not everyone has discovered Bertolini’s secret. Some male leaders are overtly aggressive, competitive, and wish to take away other people’s strength through emasculation. They segregate themselves from those who would otherwise support them. They care nothing for collective advancement, and their main goal is merely to protect their own frail ego from criticism.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Society as a whole can celebrate the life-affirming energies of great male leaders like Abraham Lincoln or Dale Carnegie, men who went against the grain to achieve their destinies. These were leaders who converted their masculine energies into a higher goal, who were also able to surround themselves with other people whose strengths were a complement to their own.
If you feel challenged in developing better leadership skills, and would like to learn how to balance your career and your personal life, let’s have an exploratory phone call and see how a few skills from me, AmyD, will create the peace you’ve been looking for.
by AmyD | Aug 11, 2016 | Choices, Mindfulness
In this TED Talk from 2005, Barry Schwartz discusses some important points from his groundbreaking book The Paradox of Choice. The premise is that we’re wrong to believe that the maximization of choice is a crucial component of our ultimate freedom and overall wellbeing.
Schwartz’ argument boils down to this: More choices aren’t necessarily better than some choices. In a world where everything from our food, electronics, health, relationships, careers, and even our identity is subject to endless decision-making and variety, we tend to become paralyzed and can’t make any decisions at all. Even worse, we feel endless regret over a good choice we made, because we fall under the illusion that another choice would have been better than good. It would have been perfect.
In the video, Schwartz also describes how endless decision-making takes up so much of our headspace that we have a hard time being present. Even a good decision to not take a work-related call during your child’s soccer game still fosters anxiety-related energy about the decision just made. However, there is a way out of this vicious cycle of decision-making, paralysis, disappointment and regret.
It’s called mindfulness.
Although we can’t control the number of choices we’re faced with on a daily or even hourly basis, we can control the way we react to those choices. By living presently in the moment, we don’t have to feel paralyzed. We can approach the wide array of choices with a sense of adventure, playful risk, and curiosity about where our ultimate choice might lead us.
We also don’t have to feel regret or disappointment after we make our decision.The whole point of mindfulness is to draw your mind, body and spirit back into the present rather than re-hash the past, or anticipate that something better will come along in the future.
By remaining present to ourselves through mindfulness, we accept the here-and-now decision with joy, wonderment and gratitude. And if we discover that our choice was indeed a truly “bad” one, mindfulness allows us to accept that “bad” choice as an opportunity to learn from our mistakes and grow stronger because of them.
Schwartz is right that a world with too much variety and too many choices can make a person depressed or anxious. However, by cultivating a mindful attitude, you can avoid the pitfalls of living in such a world. In fact, you can create the kind of world you want to by being the positive reflection you want to see in your world.
If you’d like to learn more about mindfulness training and how it can serve you in your every decision, reach out to me.
You can find true freedom and liberation from unhealthy, inhibiting mindsets. Find your clarity today!
by AmyD | Aug 1, 2016 | Choices, Communication, Entrepreneurship, Leadership
You don’t always get a second chance at making a good first impression. We’ve all heard that before. And that impression is formed in a very short amount of time. Seven seconds, to be exact. This sort of snap decision-making process is a prehistoric leftover from a time when quick situational judgments could mean the difference between life and death. And now the human brain is hardwired to make decisions in this manner. But, how long does it take to form a first impression? And how exactly are we being evaluated?
Amy Cuddy, a social psychologist at Harvard University, has been researching the phenomena of first impressions for over a decade. She has determined that people ask themselves two quick questions upon meeting a person for the first time. “Can they be trusted?” “Are they worthy of respect?” The answers to these questions are determined in a matter of seconds.
Most people are taught to trust their intuition when it comes to gauging people they first meet. In the business world these first impressions are tantamount to success. These impressions are largely based on nonverbal clues. In fact, research has indicated that nonverbal clues are four times more effective than anything you can say. What are some examples of nonverbal clues?
Posture- status and power are often conveyed by a person’s usage of space.
Attitude– people can instantly pick up on attitudes and energies.
Facial expression- smile! Make sure the look on your face reflects the outcome you want from the situation.
Handshake- this can be an indication of confidence and professionalism.
Eye contact- if you cannot maintain eye contact people tend to think of you as shifty, nervous, or just downright rude.
There are many more nonverbal ways to make a first impression. Do you need help honing your nonverbal skills so you can make a lasting first impression? I can help you channel your inner awesomeness, so you will be sure to convey strength and confidence and increase your awareness and intuition for receiving your own first impressions. Just reach out to me at [email protected] or visit my website, AmyD.me!
Harnessing your innate inner power will help you make an impact and achieve the results you deserve!
by AmyD | Jun 14, 2016 | Blog, Business, Choices, Entrepreneurship, Faith, Spirituality
Billionaire investor Ron Baron has predicted that a long-term investment in Tesla Motors will prove to be one of the best financial decisions one can make. While the fruits of his investments will be slow to grow, Baron believes firmly that Tesla will become one of the biggest companies in the world. In the long-run, an investment in one of the most innovative companies on the globe will reap enormous rewards in the future.
Baron has seen the innovations first-hand. Every three or four months, he visits the factory and is astounded by the level of forward-thinking creativity that Tesla CEO Elon Musk has envisioned for the world. As he said in an interview with CNBC that there is currently no competition for Tesla Motors. They have genuinely risen above the fray to lead the world in a new technological direction, and companies who could have competed with them failed- all because they didn’t believe in the power of Musk’s imagination.
Tesla Motor’s future success doesn’t just lie in their exciting new car technology. It’s about an entirely new way of seeing how energy can be transferred and transformed. As Baron mentioned, Tesla Motors- with an investment from Panasonic- is creating a $5 billion giga-battery factory.
There’s a reason why Musk named his company after another great visionary, Nikola Tesla. Tesla had discovered a new way of using energy in a way that was so powerful and efficient it changed the entire world. What can we, as entrepreneurs, learn from this?
Patience, Determination and Abundance
Having the kind of focus and dedication as Elon Musk, or his investor Ron Baron for that matter, is necessary for long-term, sustainable, abundant success. Musk not only sees where the future is headed, his future, but has also diversified his projects- not settling for a single industry but spreading out his vision and seeng it for its entirety.
Investing in Tesla isn’t just about instant gratification. It is about having the dedication and the foresight to know that motivated geniuses like Elon Musk are altering our world, one inspiration at a time.
As entrepreneurs, we can learn an invaluable lesson from this. With enough patience, dedication, tenacity, and inspiration, we can alter our destinies to include an abundance so beyond what we ever imagined. A success that is transformative on a global scale.
If you are interested in learning more about harnessing this kind of laser focus, so that you may achieve everything you’ve ever dreamed of and more, contact me to set up an appointment today!
by AmyD | Jun 6, 2016 | Blog, Choices, Faith, Spirituality
We are often told that our consciousness constructs our own reality, and that its up to us to make manifest our highest calling. But how can we deconstruct the walls or barriers that prevent us from achieving our true destiny?
The answer comes from Robert Lanza’s prevailing theory on how the universe is created. That theory is called biocentrism, and it demonstrates how consciousness is what forms our universe, not the other way around. Up until now, the way we understand the laws of the universe, and the way we participate in our reality, has been limited.
What is Biocentrism?
Quantum physics has demonstrated how biocentrism operates. Everything is made up of atomic matter and energy, including ourselves and the objects around us. Because everything in the universe possesses this potential energy, we can transmute, transform, or change it… if we are so willing. The universe, in this sense, is not an accident but comes into being through our consciousness. We, in essence, create our own reality.
Change Your Mindset, Change Your World
How does this happen? As human beings, we’ve been led to believe that our path is limited. Our minds have been set, by ourselves and others, to believe that we are only capable of achieving the status quo. Because we believe this, our life plays out according to arbitrary rules. Our true destiny may have been Superman or Wonder Woman, but we’ve settled for an alter ego that doesn’t give justice to our dreams.
That doesn’t mean that God doesn’t have a set plan for us. We do have an ultimate path and a destiny given to us by the grace of God. However, it is up to us to set ourselves at a positive vibration that attracts all of the things God intended for us in His limitless universe.
In one of my videos, I talk about using a dry-erase board to erase our doubts and fears.Biocentric theory supports this ability to erase and re-draw our boundless dreams and aspirations. We can create anything in our field to appear, much like Neo in the Matrix. Neo was able to bend a spoon, all because the spoon- which is made up of energy and matter that can be manipulated- is an object of our own creation.
Living Abundantly… and Beyond
Jim Carrey is a great example of someone who understands biocentric phenomena. In this video, he urgently tells us to believe in the possibility of something bigger than ourselves. Jim Carrey explains to us that his special purpose was simply to make people laugh- and because he did whatever it took to fulfill that special calling, he was able to forge his own destiny… and more. By staying focused on the single most important thing in his life, the universe naturally expanded his vision to include all of the things he’s accomplished today.
How does this work for businesspeople? Although I will always encourage you to hit certain quantitative goals, I also want you to think beyond the numbers- which can serve as just another barrier or boundary. If we go beyond that set number, we can think about our success in terms of everything we do, all the people we influence, and everything we have. We can live so abundantly, that numbers can’t even begin to describe our existence.
If you’re interested in learning more about overcoming the limitations your mind has set for itself, contact me at [email protected] to schedule a session!
Everything you need to achieve your dreams, and more, is within you. Reach out today!
by AmyD | May 18, 2016 | Blog, Choices, Faith, Spirituality
When we are vulnerable, our emotions can culminate into a blocked negative energy that gets trapped in a metaphysical wall around our heart. That wall, which can wreak havoc on our self-fulfillment, is called a heart wall.
When we are emotionally injured, our energy gets stuck and we build an emotional fortress that we think will protect us from further injury. While this can be a very important coping mechanism in times when we desperately need it, a permanent heart wall has catastrophic impacts on our well-being. It becomes a sickness, and the sicker it is the more challenging it will be to move forward in life. It keeps us from discovering our true selves, and prevents us from loving deeply and unconditionally.
A heart wall limits us from ultimate abundance, and our ability to form positive relationships. It divides us from our heart’s desires. It ultimately detaches us from who we really are.
When we have a heart wall, we are no longer open to the opportunities the universe grants us. We are often plagued with insecurity about our decisions or choices we’ve made. We constantly question and judge other people’s choices. We revisit the same situation over and over in our head, hoping to play it out in a different way.
The good news is that you can remove your heart wall, layer-by-layer, in order to be free of the past and to live blissfully in the now. You can do this by getting rid of the toxic, negative energy blocks that form it. With the right practice and training, you can open yourself up to the possibility of unconditional love.
When we remove the heart wall, we are more fulfilled in our relationship, and we make more money. This happens because we are now open to attracting amazing, synchronistic experiences. Those experiences, which we sometimes call “coincidences,” happen more frequently and are suddenly within our grasp. Our heart’s desires are made manifest almost immediately.
Once the heart wall is down you’re able to make clearer decisions. Your heart, your will, and your gut are aligned. You will have mastered your energy, allowing you to carve out your destiny in full force.
You’ll also be able to give and receive the gifts of love. You will feel connected to others in your personal life and your career. You will finally be able to participate in some of the most joyful and elevating human experiences.
If you’re interested in experiencing what its like to live without limitations or boundaries, contact me- Amy D- about removing your heart wall. It takes only 3-4 sessions for you to dismantle your heart wall, so you can finally live abundantly and joyfully!
Contact me at [email protected] to schedule your session today!