“He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” Romans 8:32
The Arctic and Antarctica sit on opposite ends of the earth. They have striking differences but share many similarities as well. We tend to think of positive and negative emotions in terms of opposites. If we give it some thought, we will find that our opposite emotions have their own similarities. They may be similar in terms of intensity and the opportunity for growth. We have the power within us to direct our emotions through our actions and reactions. We may find ourselves feeling stuck in a negative place out of our comfort when we experience anger, fear, sorrow or grief. Staying in the dark cloud sounds easier than clearing the air. We know we need to clear the air, but don’t always know how.
How do we swing that pendulum of emotion from the negative to the positive?
First, make the conscious decision to acknowledge the pattern of negative energy. We tend to over-focus on how we have been wronged or circumstances leading up to the negative emotions we are feeling. We cling to our understanding of what is fair. The idea of fairness is a fallacy. It is an illusion that keeps us stuck. This way of thinking leads to a state of mind in which we cause our own suffering. It is important to acknowledge the feelings.
When I say feelings, I am not referring to our emotions. A feeling is what follows an emotion. It is your brain’s way of assigning meaning to an emotion and how it will affect your body. Becoming aware of your emotions and feelings, while understanding the difference allows you to determine their root causes. By asserting conscious thought and deliberate action, you will be choosing how you experience these emotions and feelings. This will make an incredible difference and determine whether you live a calm or chaotic life.
How do you want to feel? Consider this thoughtfully: I recommend making a list of tasks or changes you can make to extract yourself from the environment of negativity. This could include changes to your behavior or daily actions. It should include activities that are best-suited to you to relieve you of negative energy, whether that’s singing out loud or a hike in the woods. Meditation will help you return to a tranquil state of being. Treating your body better with exercise and appropriate eating habits are also important to incorporate into your routine of returning to a state of positivity. The purpose of this list is to change your frequency of emotions. Whenever you are confronted with an emotion or feeling that negatively influences your thoughts, force it out of your mind and replace it with a different thought. Imagine a resolution, a fond memory, or something that positively influences your mood. Taking deliberate actions and changing your way of thinking will help you find the right frequency. This allows you to have faith and step away from that dark cloud.
We all go through hard times. We have a choice about whether we want to sit comfortably in negative emotions or take action to remove those expediently when they occur. Every circumstance in our lives, negative or positive, has a higher purpose. It gives us an opportunity to grow further. By learning to change the frequency of our emotions through the suggestions in this article, we can change our thinking and behavior. We can choose to maintain balance, a sense of peace, purpose, and to persevere towards our goals.
Our emotions and experiences are energy. Energy is atomic matter that has a physical form. Our emotions and experiences can create energetic barriers, such as a wall, unseen but there preventing the natural exchange of energy. This phenomena is known as a Heart Wall. I know this may sound a bit like the supernatural, but in fact it is our body’s way of protecting itself from pain. That is something many have experienced: a wall built from the remnants of pain that prevents us from future joy. Many can relate to that happening and know it is real even if you didn’t know it was called a Heart Wall.
If you’ve read this far, something piqued your interest. Something in my words rang true to you. Let me know how I can help. We can have a confidential discussion to see if a Heart Wall session would benefit you. Please contact me at Amy@AmyD.me.
Meditation has stood the test of time. The fact that people have been meditating since the beginning of human civilization is a testament to its many benefits. Scientific research over the years has proven this. And I have spoken at length about it on this blog many times. But, did you know meditation can help you hit the reset button on your brain? Read on to find out about set points and the power of meditation.
Each of us has a set point for positive and negative emotions. The Set Point Study found that people who are naturally happy have more activity in the front part of their frontal lobes. While those who are prone to anxiety have more activity on the right side of their frontal lobe. When you go through intense events in your life, your emotions shift away from that natural set point.
For example, this study worked with naturally happy people who only recently began suffering from spinal cord paralysis. The study found that those people returned to their natural demeanor after a brief depression. Your brain chemistry will always regress to its natural set point. However, this process takes about 6 months.
It is possible to reset your natural emotional set point. This reset can be achieved through meditation. Participants in the study meditated for 1 hour a day, 6 days week. After 8 weeks, follow-ups showed a change in each participant. They were happier and became more in tune with the emotions of those around them. In addition, their immune system responses improved.With MRI scans, scientists have noticed that people who meditate have larger brains than those who don’t. Elderly people who meditate regularly also lose less gray matter and have a thicker prefrontal cortex. The prefrontal cortex is where your attention and control are determined.
Armed with this knowledge, you can make meditation a priority for your health. Ease meditation into your day, starting with 15-minute spurts. Eventually, you will work up to the 1-hour meditation session per day, 6 days per week schedule used by the participants in this study. If you are naturally anxious or depressed, you can change this set point over time with this schedule and improve your overall quality of life.
If you find it challenging to make positive changes in your life, you’re not alone. It could be due to the HeartWall. When the HeartWall is removed, you connect on a deeper level personally and professionally, experience increased health, have a greater peace consistently and are more abundant. Learn more about the HeartWall here.