Part of my life’s purpose is helping high-performing professionals – from CEOs to athletes – discover the abundance and immeasurable success that is right there waiting for them. However, I always encourage my clients to think beyond material wealth and instead think about the holistic, joyful abundance that can be found in every area of a person’s life- including your family. When you practice openness, compassion, empathy and gratitude in one area of your life, you will reap the benefits of such practices in every other area as well.
In this blog post, I’d like to talk about the life-altering benefits of mindfulness and energy work, that will radically transform the relationships you have with your spouse and your children. It is your duty as your family’s protector and provider to be a strong, stable and positive force in their lives. In our increasingly distracted, stressful and busy world, taking those steps to be a better man is crucial.
Men At Risk
Men are, statistically, less likely to seek help for mental illness than women. On a related note, they are less likely to communicate how they’re feeling, much less confront the negative energy that sustains their depression or anger problems. All of this has a destructive impact on those closest to them, especially spouses and children.
The good news is that you can deal with your emotions in a way that sustains and heals ourselves and those most precious to you. Mindfulness has been shown to curb anger and depression by teaching us how to approach our discomforting emotions without judgment, allowing us to not only be more compassionate with ourselves but also increasingly empathetic toward others.
The Benefits of Mindful Living
Studies have shown that men who are mindful are, on average, considered more attractive to women. If you’re struggling to reignite the passion in your marriage, mindfulness can help! As I explained, mindfulness increases your emotional intelligence- your capacity to empathize, listen, and communicate with your partner- which only makes you more honorable and desirable in the eyes of your spouse.
With an increased empathy and emotional intelligence, male partners can be present to their spouses and give them the attention, affection, and acceptance that they need to feel loved. With strong empathy also comes better communication and listening skills. How many divorces occur, because a man wasn’t able to express how he feel or address the issue his wife was having?
Positive Energy and the Needs of Children
To ensure that your children develop into positive, confident, and driven individuals, you must exude energy that is affirming, open and full of joy. Approaching life with a sense of wonder, curiosity, and gratitude (rather than passing negative judgment on the things in your life) will help your children follow suit. This is your responsibility as a father, to be the positive reflection you want to see in the world, and make sure that your children grow up to mirror that same energy- to change the world, to harness their own superpowers for good.
Mindfulness can also help you be a better father. Children are only able to develop into the best versions of themselves if they are given the attention, acceptance, and affection they deserve- every day. By giving them your undivided mindful attention, you are giving them the greatest gift of all: a confident, positive future self.
When you practice mindfulness, your positive energy increases exponentially, creating a ripple effect in your relationships. Your wife and your children will respond in kind, and together you will forge a familial bond based wholly on love.
If you’d like to take your relationships to the next level, please contact me at [email protected]. To become truly elite you must nurture and cultivate those relationships that define you as a father, as a husband, and as a human being.
Leadership is defined as “the action of leading a group of people or an organization.” When it comes to leadership, not everyone makes the decision to take on that role. Leaders are viewed to be highly intelligent and powerful. However, it is said that if one can lead themselves, only then can they be capable of leading others. So what does it mean to lead yourself?
Leading yourself means first believing in you, even if no one else does. As I’ve said before, GOD has already instilled within us all of the things that we need to be successful in this life. It is up to us to have faith and believe that no matter how difficult and bumpy the road may get, there are greener pastures just beyond the fears and the doubts.
An article that I read on leadership stated that to lead oneself, one has to do the following:
• Create an inspiring vision of the future that they want to create.
• Motivate one to buy into, believe and deliver the vision.
• Manage the delivery of the vision, through resilience and dedication.
• Building ever-stronger, trust-based relationship with one self.
As a leader, you may feel alone and that your vision is not being shared by others. Ask yourself, am I motivating my team to do their best? Am I being a positive role model and leader? Being a leader definitely means sharpening your motivations skills to get others to believe in your dreams. Being a leader doesn’t have to be a lonely position. It will only be as lonely as you make it. Another great skill of a leader is to develop more leaders. Share your wealth of knowledge with your team to make them better and they will in return share knowledge with you that could make you better. Even leaders can learn from their flock.
Another very important skill that a leader must possess is the ability to believe your gut! Decisions are analyzed by colleagues and data is reviewed to ensure that the best options are presented to the leader but at the end of the day, it is your gut and intuition that leads you to the right decision. Most successful leaders will tell you that most of their decisions are based off their gut feeling. Having faith and taking the time to make the right decisions will assist leaders in staying at the top. And hey, even on the days when it seems that you may be falling from the top, always remember this saying, “A set back is a set up for a comeback!”
Dalal, B. (2015, Oct 25). Leadership is Lonely. Leadership is Solitary. Retrieved Oct 30, 2015, from LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/leadership-lonely-solitary-bhavna-dalal?trk=hp-feed-article-title-like
The winter is slowly fading away and it is time to welcome in the SPRING! While taking the time to do a little spring cleaning at home is important, it is important to do some spring cleaning in your professional life as well.
Now you may be contemplating , “how exactly can I accomplish spring cleaning within my business?” There are many ways to evaluate your professional objectives and resources to determine what changes may be necessary to allow your business to grow and continue to be successful.
So let’s start with your company’s online presence. It is important to bring awareness to your company and brand through creating a strong and positive online platform. The first thing your business needs is to update and/or remove any information that is no longer current or relevant. Look over the exact verbiage used in the text content of your website. Could it be written to sound better and flow easier for the reader? Are you placing material on the website in a way that it catches the eye of your target market? This is a very important evaluation to get the most out of your social media and company websites.
Next, take a look at your staff. If you are a business owner with 2 or more employees, you may want to consider evaluating their designated roles and shuffling things around a little. Speak with your employees and find out what additional skills and hidden talents they have. You may have a graphic designer or a computer whiz on your team and you don’t even know it. Also, your employees are your best innovators. They may have ideas or possible resolutions that you have not even thought of. Learn to be a part of your team, not just the leader.
Finally, take a look at yourself. Are you fully vested in your business? Do you make goals or excuses? These are just a couple of questions to get your mind going. If you don’t fully commit to your business, why should anyone else? If you do not set goals for your company, why should your employees? Spring cleaning for your business can be very emotional. It’s hard to take an honest look at yourself and make the necessary changes to get to where you want to be, but it’s worth it. Even if you are currently running a successful business, it doesn’t hurt to still do a little spring cleaning. Let me know how it goes!
For more information on how to do spring cleaning within your business, check out this link.